What is The Picture of Dorian Gray about?

Beneath the vivid descriptions and the overtones of a Shakespearean/ Greek tragedy, The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde is a profound narrative about the reckless corruption of morality. Dorian Gray, a man revered by many for his handsome looks and youthful appearance, utters a wish that he would remain youthful forever, as he ponders deeply into a painting that captures his soul.

It is only when fulfilling desire upon desire, passion upon passion, that Dorian realises his wish for eternal youth has been granted, but at the cost of watching his own portrait twist and deform with the burden of his own sins. The endless pursuit of hedonism and desire extracts a hefty toll — no deed goes unpunished, and the acts of the wicked corrupt the world around them.

Apologies in advance for the flood of Spongebob references 🙂

5 life lessons from The Picture of Dorian Gray

1. Eternal youth comes at a cost. External validation can only go so far.

Wilde uses Dorian’s obsession with beauty to show the pitfalls of external validation.

Don’t let the hunt for likes, attention, and praise be the sole motivation for why you do things. Internal validation is much more stronger and sustainable in the long-term. That means doing things that:

• You inherently enjoy.
• Give you purpose and a goal you can work towards.
• You can do at your own pace.

These don’t have to be huge projects, they can be small things too!

2. Pleasure is not the same as fulfilment.

Dorian spends his life chasing pleasure, validation, and short bursts of dopamine and excitement. He needs constant stimulation and approval to stay happy. But none of this is lasting happiness.

Don’t confuse momentary excitement with long-term fulfillment. Excitement fades, but purpose grows.

Pleasure in and of itself isn’t bad, but without intention, it becomes a distraction rather than a direction.

• Invest in hobbies and activities you genuinely care about.
• You’ll make more progress with slow and steady effort rather than rushing into things.

3. Running from yourself is the real tragedy.

Dorian avoids responsibility by letting the portrait bear his sins, and yet the guilt remains.

Confronting your own weaknesses and taking accountability for your actions isn’t always easy, but if it means a clear conscience and peace of mind, then it’s definitely worth it.

Failure is an opportunity to learn, not beat yourself up and hide away from the world. Everyone’s going through life for the first time, and everyone makes mistakes!

Here are some practical tips:

• Voice your thoughts and how you’re feeling, whether that’s through journaling or talking to people you trust. It’s a great way to view yourself in the third person and acknowledge how you’re actually feeling without your brain trying to make excuses for itself.
• Don’t hesitate to ask questions or ask for feedback about yourself, whether that’s in a social setting or work setting. This improves communication, and may give you some concrete ideas on what to do next.

4. Be careful who you let influence you.

Dorian didn’t choose the path he did alone. There were others, like Lord Henry, who influenced him and planted ideas in his head.

Influence is subtle, and who you spend your time with shapes who you are and who you become.

Some things to think about:

• Do you surround yourself with people who want to see you grow? Or is it an echo chamber of yes-men?
• Notice how you feel after spending time with someone — do you feel lighter or heavier?
• Whose standards are you trying to meet?

5. You can’t hide from the truth forever.

How many times have we seen characters in books and movies attempt to hide the truth or lie, only for it to exposed at the very end in devastating and utterly humiliating fashion? It’s not just done for dramatic effect, there’s some insight to be gained from that.

For Dorian, he soon realises that hiding the truth only makes the guilt louder and the consequences worse.

In everyday life, avoidance can look like:

• Putting off a difficult conversation
• Refusing to admit a mistake
• Pretending you’re fine when you’re not

Honesty with yourself can be uncomfortable, but it can also be freeing. Again — peace of mind. Think of these things as things you have to do, not want to do.

You need to have that conversation because the other person isn’t addressing the elephant in the room.

You need to talk about it because this genuinely matters to you.

Hopefully, those were insightful lessons!

Overall, The Picture of Dorian Gray remains a must-read classic, replete with valuable life lessons that demonstrate how sage advice can often be found even in fiction.

Rating: 4.5/5

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